Yong Tau Foo Guy vs Loveless Rich Guy vs Smart Guy

2 evenings spent with friends and we came up with the above subject. Why?

Personally, i have few single friends who remain single either by choice or unforgiving circumstances. I, personally, sometimes think that they may have set the standard too high for their own good. On the other hand, maybe by keeping the standard, they're safe from predators amongst us who seek"damsels in distress", "rich single white female", "independent woman" and not forgetting" single-mothers".

Being a single-mother for few years have toughen her up. She handles everything, financially, emotionally, raising the kids, generating income for the family. Then, why on earth, she would wan to get married again? Sex? This is where most of us are found guilty without trial. It's companionship. What surprises me the most, her future-husband was chosen by her based on his "Yon-Tau Foo guy" quality. He's not rich, a working class just like the rest of us, a simple guy, quite straightforward towards life and fashion, so to say. She, sometime, needs to guide him on his style and he accepted by slowly embracing the changes and hence, pleasing everyone. But, according to the story, he kept wooing her even after 2 rejections and finally, she accepted knowing she will have minor headache by putting aside he ego and expectation but at least, she knows, she is loved unconditionally.

This is why "Yong-Tau-Foo guy" (the term we came up with) wins hands down against Loveless Rich Guy. Lowering down our expectation doesn't mean we gives up everything just to be with someone. But it's more to give & take basis. Accepts his flaws i.e. being not so smart, ordinary, under dress, financially challenged, ordinary looks, and maybe, we'll find the love we're looking for. The rest, can be improve in time.

I have yet to find a friend married to a Rich guy in a loveless marriage. I have a few who's stuck in a ordinary but loveless marriage. But who are we to judge them? If all has failed, why not just jump into the boat of married to Rich but loveless guy kinda thing? At least, we can shop endlessly. This is only applicable for those with strong heart or maybe even for those who are born without feelings. Mistress may also be in the picture so deal with it. Usually then not, Rich but Loveless guy is tied with Smart Guy.

Some of us look for a Smart Guy - who knows how to dress, how to impress, how to treat a woman right. That is the problem. More often than not, they treat all women right. Maybe they're rich, maybe not. It could be a combination of Yong Tau Foo + Smart or Rich Loveless + Smart. Maybe Smart alone. This is a guy we have to compete with. Be on his radar all the time. Once you're not, you're out batter!

so, it's your choice really. Yong Tau foo? Rich Loveless? Smart? a combination? If finding a guy is hard, maybe it's time to look into ourselves. Our standard. The signals we radiates. For all we know, we might be giving the wrong signals. Somebody has asked me, "why have i attracted younger guys so far?" for which i shall answer now " look into the signals you're giving." Maybe we need to change our social circles? Mingling with the right crowd may help. Maybe our own family may help. Recently, a family member marries a woman whom was picked by the groom's mother. If everything is left to the groom, he won't get married at all because he is a supreme Yong Tau Foo guy with limited contact with girls. We're happy for him and judging by the situation, the bride seems to be a nice lady who could be his companion for life.

This is only my personal view. The matter of the heart is something that only you can decide. I always believe that embracing changes will lead to something greater. But, make sure the decision comes form you. no one else. Live up to your own expectation. not someone else.

I once read an article which has changed my view towards life:

Our parents - no substitute. Shower them with love whike they're still around.
1.Kids - love and guide them and when the time comes, let them go.

2. Friends - keep them close. Friendship withers with time if we fail to cherish it. Call up!

3. Siblings esp sisters - will accompany us throughout life. They are the ones who accepts us for what we are, what we've done. Be nice to them. Keep them close.

4. Husband - may leave us someday. We won't know. but let's face it, for those who have been married before and still are, companionship counts. Don't ever think that none needs a husband. Some will look like, or even say, they don't need a husband. But try heart-to-heart talk, and you'll find out the truth.

Road to Penang 10-13 Dec

Finally, we're leaving for Penang tonight at midnight. Kudos to TW & Valve Div management!

Organising this trip is a combination fun, confusing and hopefuls, or shall i say, carca-marba.
Planning stage went quite smooth. We already have the basics from last year's teambuilding especially on the costing part. Eh, this trip is not a full-blown teambuilding trip.

Why? because the only time we actually do the "extremes" is gonna be tomorrow, Dec 11th morning which we'll go to Jerejak Island for breakfast and trekking + flying fox. After that, although is still gonna be a group event but it's more to Jalan-Jalan.

As usual, the committee is headed by me (it's time i find proteges) and without Leena, Lia and Nita, we won't be able to pull this off.

This time around, some of the activities are based on polls result. I love it! Voice of the people.

Till then, pray that we come back safely in one piece!

and to those who can't go, there's always next time bebeh!

Masjid Kristal

Despite the issues, political views, i love the views.

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Monsoon Cup 2010 - the last one?

Well, 2-6 Dec is the Monsoon Cup season in Terengganu. They had bazaar at Taman Syahbandar but this time, i went to Pulau Duyong on 5th Dec to see what's the fuss all about. Thankfully the traffic was perfect. But hey, the parking is jaaaaaaaaaaauuuuuuuuuuuuuuhhhhhhhhhh dowh. Considering i did bring my FIL & MIL, i couldn't possibly park the car at the lot.

Eh, they have free Beca to & fro the parking lot. Better yet :-
"Abang, saya bawak warga emas neh. Dan ada 2 OKU (FIL & Oya okaayyy) neh. Mcm mana yek?"
sambil buat2 muka poyo dan kesian dalam satu masa.
"Awak masuk la bwk keta". Hasilnya:

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Parking betul2 depan Dewan Cindai aka parking VIP (Kami jek keta proton :P).

Dalam tuh takla sesak sangat. Some people said that this will be the last Monsoon Cup. I am not sure if this is true. Some said because it's not profitable. Some said will be moved to somewhere else. Some said it has got something to do with politics. well, i am not participating next year or even the year after. so, i don't care.

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sempat lagi skodeng budak2 AF neh...

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aku terkilan x sempat try Firefly simulator...adushhh...pastuh, gi relek jap kat Pantai Batu Buruk. dan...

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pemandangan biasa waktu air naik.Bila MPKT nak bersihkan? Januari laa.. bila tengkujuh sudah nak beradu. eh eh..apa tuh..

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bas FA Selangor rupanye. patutla dalam pemandangan yg sungguh natural ada plak yg kalerful. FA Penang pun ada tapi takde pix..

Hangat kaaa?

Beberapa hari yg lepas, suatu malam yg indah, perut dah berkeroncong. Grabbing few people yg ada kat opis tepat KUL 8++, kami pi SS19 subang jaya jalan2 carik makan. Mcm biasa, pi kat kedai si Nita Ikan Bakar. aku bukan la nk cerita sgt psl our lil outing tuh but the food, not only first time aku jumpak, agak menarik gak aaa.

1. Laksa Utara - sedap. nenas ada, kuah ikan apa ntah dia habaq ari tuh...

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2. Bihun Sup Utara (klu tak sebut UTARA depa bg yg besa jak) - sedap! Kuah kicap dia superb beb. kalau tamo perut, sila habaq mai..sebab aku x makan :P

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3. Nasi Tabuq (tabur2??) - walaweh sedap weiii...abaikan org ittewww....

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4. Nasi Rambo - Nasi Tabuq berkuah.

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kedai dia tang mana? klu tatau SS19 takyah gi la. Tapi dia dok kat ujung nun.
sapa yg pi malam tuh? rash-sia! tapi kami had fun gossiping, lawak bodos, dll.

anyway, minggu lepas kami 1 family pi Shah Alam Wetland atas desakan anak teruna aku...hmmmppphhh..

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nih laki aku..sapa yg dok terliuq tgk kata dia ensem , sila la tatap puas2. wa tadak hal..sharing is caring. kan kan kan...depan dia anak dara aku...cantek nok..ahaks...

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nih anak truna aku yg tamau sunat unless aku bagi PSP..eh..budak neh...chloroform jek..

Saya nak tgk anak mami!

Boley ka? Ada ka?
Ha..dah final dah..dah siap dahhh...tinggal nak gerak jaa....dan dan tuh keluar slang utagha no...cheh..

dah penat memikir, memplan and voila..dah fixed, settle... 10dec malam sampe 13 hb..jgn carik aku la (mcm la ada org nak carik)...FB pown x on (yeeeeee keeeeeeeeeeeeeeee). sebab? gua pegi happening kat PenANG beb..nih location pilihan boss aku..tp aku pown setujuk sebab
a. dah lama x pi
b. last time pi pun, 3 jam ja..

so, sebagai Organiser cemerlang, gemilang, terbilang, dibantu oleh 2 protege dan sorang mak budak, inila hasilnya:

Valve Division Trip to Penang
10Dec - 11.59pm - Gerak daaaaa
11Dec -
Bekpes followed by optional Trekking+FlyingFox+Abseling @ Jerjak Island,
Singgah opis branch baru kat ...ntah..Bayan Lepas kot
Lunch Ikan Bawal? Katanya Hakim best...
Check-in kat tempat tidoq
Pi terjah Penang Fest pastuh dinner Nasi Kandaq @ Jalan McAllister
hm..xtvt Malam...wayang kat Prangin Mall la kot..

12Dec -
Tidoq sampai kui 10.30
11pg gerak pi Lunch. tatau mana lagi.
Pi jenjalan tgk Reclining Buddha ka..pastuh pi Toy Museum (ada kata x best tapi aku nak pi jugak..aku Organiser..nasibla..hahahah..gelak jahat banyak)
malamnya official dinner kat..RAHSIA! pastuh pi happening sendirik2...

13 Dec -
Checkout awai sebab aku nak pi ronda Padang Kota, nak pi Fort Cornwallis,masuk museum apa ntah yg ada situ pastuh klu sempat rasa pasemboq skali..
soh bas pi tunggu kat seberang, kami naik feri (jakun seyyy memasing)
pastuh lunch kat mana2 la..Autocity ka...

teambuilding?mana? mana? nih xtvt semua nih buat dlm group..teambuilding la tuh..aku x kira. Hangpa orang Penang ka, rumah sebelah hotel ka, kalau dah confirm duduk skali, tak bley balik rumah. Klu tak, tawon depan, pak haji tak rasa trip dah...pak aji kena mai dok sesama tau..haa..jgn tak tau..kami memang strict punya Organiser.ingat senang nak jaga 41 mak, bapak, tok, nenek, cucu, anak orang ...

x sabar neh...lagipun, betul2 nak kena release segala steam dalam kapla dah ney..hajat nak pi Switzerland. x mampu la plak kan.

abish,mana dna bila masa aku nak tgk anak mami weyyy?

Mengupdatekan dirik!

Well, nak kata takde happening , banyaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaak yg happened recently. Ada yg ok, biasa dan bertaraf P&c pun ada...ahaks..

Well, Sofiya has updates. She like cute male doctors esp her Rehab doc at UMMC @ PPUM. She crawls faster now and getting "cepat merajuk easily".

Other than, i can't say because some happenings are P&C. :P..

My current project is assuming the role of Organiser for the division again.
Being one is not an easy task. Put in mind all the Generations i.e Builders, Baby Boomers, Gen-X and Gen-Y and i can assure you each has their definition of Group Outing, fun, not to mention the wheres, whens, hows and it is endless.

Come to think of it, this is fun. Maybe..just maybe...event management???

Sorry, can't accomodate EVERYONE but will definitely caters to each Gen's preference.
Planning is being made and of course, it's a headache. but fun!
Where? ahaks...later!

Lebaran Di Terengganu

Tawon ini, beraya di Terengganu lagi. Bukan tanak balik Sabah tapi April hari tuh dah balik masa Odu passed away. Lagipun sepatutnya nak balik raya time JAN / FEB dah kena beli tiket dah. Dan silap planning. Takpe, tawon depan gua balik raya Sabah jugak.

Walaupun dah beraya di tempat orang banyak kali dari zaman sekolah lagi, dan wlupun beraya di tempat mentua sendirik, tapi suasana dan perasaan dia lain beb. Lagi2 bila orang sana call pada malam raya dan bila anak2 buah bagi update sapa yang datang bertandang, mcm mana meriahnye kat sana..huuu..mencabar tul!


Bukan nak kata tempat mertua aku tak seglamer beraya kat Sabah tapi mungkin sebab keluarga aku besar. dah biasa dengan kemeriahan dan hiruk pikuk malam raya dan dihari raya. Persediaan + food untuk family members jak dah satu kawah. Tuh belum kakak aku kat Johor balik tuh. Keluarga ber-8 nye memerlukan belanja yg agak besar gak kalau balik. Kalau kakak aku yg satu tuh balik, sah2 berketupatla rumah aku. meriahnye Anak2 buah aku yang sibuk bawak BF/GF masing2 kan. Kawan2 abang2 dan kakak2 yang dtg beraya rumah mak aku instead of rumah kawan dorang. heheh...cuma mungkin tawon nih Odu dah takde so lain la sikit. Selalunye jangan harap raya per-1 & 2 dapat berjalan dengAN merdekanya. Rumah jiran pun belum tentu dapat pegi! Kat sana ramai orang aku kenal. Walaupun member2 aku x banyak kat sana, tapi tetap ada dan yang memang dah kenal terlalu lama. kenapa tak ramai? Boarding school @ KL. get it?


Kalau kat Terengganu, aku ada adik ipar sorang jek. Tawon neh kecoh sikit sebab dia dah dapat anak, Hakimi. Tambah sorang lagi.


tapi apapun, persediaan sikit jek sebab orang sikit. Memang budget ala2 nak bagi keluarga dan kawan2 jek. Itupun tawon ini raya pertama dah merayau. Smalam pun merayau. hari nih nak gi family wedding @ Kuala Berang. Esok lusa pun ada plan. Kawan2 aku kat KT pun kurang dan x berapa rapat pon. ke aku yg tak merapatkan? plan nak pi umah Kak Saliza senior kat KTDI. Belakang umah jek :P...Banyak kwn2 aku adalah kwn2 laki aku. Kat sini la. Sabtu neh wedding officemate kat KT gak. kena pegi. kang kena ban :P..hahah.

apa2 pun aku tetap rindu suasana beraya kat Kg sendiri. tak salahkan. wlupun dh beranak 2 mcm neh :P..

p/s argghh change of plan. KB tunda saturday, wedding napi aku gi esok, hari nih nk gi rumah belakang and rumah Diana. kalau aku ada mood aku gi la kuala berang punya wedding tuh. buat aku takde mood jek!

Kacau

Jiwa kacau? ntah la. yg penting, kejadahnye aku menulis blog kul 1.56pagi neh..tau la Isnin cuti Nuzul Quran kan..

tapi memang kacau. kerja berlambak. on my desk dah bertimbun kertas berteriakan untuk di enter order kan, di quote kan, di buang kan, di lekat kan, di minute kan. claim aku pown x setel lagi tau. duit tuh babe...haaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaa...........masa ni lah nk membodek boss nak asst sorang.ala, buat sementara waktu jek sampai aku leh concentrate. kenapa aku takleh concentrate? huhu...sadis..kalau dah dua akaun wa kena jaga, lu pikir sendiri la babe..lainla gaji aku ribu raban tahap gaban, bole cerita..wa sanggup stayback ala2 like there's no tomorrow kan. nih gaji orang yang aku settlekan keje dia pown lebey dari gua, apa cerita bai..takpe, bak kata member, redha je la..ada kebaikan nye tuh. memang ada kebaikan. aku tanak naik pangkat or title pown naik gaji dah la...

tapi takpe. wa ada plan baru. nnt gua launch lepas ERP 3 hari yg bestnye di HQ...takyah gi KOMPAKAR nu haa...telinga sakit, jiwa kacau, kerja bertimbun, last2 bila aku tensen, semua aku tolak tepi gi lepak..hua hua hua..sadis kan..

ada org tanya..dah shopping raya lom? well, baju kurung wa bnyk yg baru 2-3 x pakai. tapi sebelum ada org membebel kata sunat taww pakai baju bari di pagi aidilfitri, wa beli selepas budak Adam finalise nak kaler apa. Kejap Maroon, kejap Biru. Psycho apa budak neh. Dia dah settle, yg lelain go with the flow. kasut raya wa nak beli kasut Outdoor aka yg ada drainage system aka mcm kasut syed Iris. ala gini la:

ni versi pompuan. kaler nih aku jumpak tapi..x berkenan..

yg nih aku nak. leh pijak kaksi orang sesuke ati.
alaaaaaa very women! tapi kiutkan..
nih mcm kasut budak Syed tuh. tapi aku jumpa kaler biru..hmm..maybe reebok la tehn..tapi itam abis..

Kasut dia kaler oren. tadik gi riki kat BSC, jumpak Reebok kaler hitam. Adidas nye kaler hijau tua and electric blue. adoish...eyy? yup, m talking about sports shoes laa...eh? takleh ke pakai baju kurung ngan sport shoes..? takpe, nnt nk g tgk kat Al-Ikhsan lagik.

lagi...hmm..minggu lepas jumpak budak SMS kat skolah. lama x g skolah so bila berbuka kat sekolah semua kenangan pahit manis busuk masin kuar balik. best zaman sekolah. yg tak best, bila abish perkampung yayasan sabah, menangis mcm nak rak tanak balik skola. so, kiranya skola x best ke? tadik petang buka kat Peninsula hotel ngan geng2 nih jugak. best jumpak member2 smpi lupa masa dan laki aku yg dok tunggu luar. sib baek HP dia ada internet. xlah buhsan sgt tunggu aku kot :P..

Hari Khamis lepas buka puasa event kat opis. aku organise. dan lee na . dibantu ole lia and nita. and syuk . and black. and ekal. and saravanan. and boss Vijay. tawon ini agak grand dari tawon lepas sebab ramai orang 30-40pax and budget besar courtesy of Vijay. Thanks boss. aku nak sebut gak nama dia..mesti dia maki aku..ekekekke.

Penat memang penat. on that day, dari noon aku dah announce yg aku ada tapi takde. susan terkulat2 dgr. sian minah tuh. aku ngan Lina la yg pegi ambik order, ambik barang, beli barang dan lastly shopping kat Pasar Ramadhan. ditemani mak buyung Nafisah yg melompat2 nak jugak ikut wlupun dia tgh preggy 6-7 bulan. hasih budak neh. melompat2 mcm nk nangis bila lina x bagi ikut. last, aku bagi dgn syarat x angkat barang. banyak food tapi aku sempat rasa a few jek. Aku dah siap mandi wajib pagi tuh. red flag. tup tup malam xleh join jemaah and terawih. frust ada gak. bukan slalu aku berjemaah and bukan slalu ada solat jemaah + terawikh kat opis. alhamdulillah, sejuk dah opis tuh.

Bila tgk gambar2 yg aku ambik, teringin gilak nak DSLR..tapi berat dowh nk angkut sana sini. tgk la wa pikir dulu. manatau, leh rembat duit raya anak aku..haishhh..heheh...petang neh buka kat PJ Club..eloo bukan nk gi clubbing taw...x baek bulan2 posa gi clubbing ^,^...bulan laen ikut suka ko la labi..slow down lasikit, tambah amal ibadat tew ...PJ Club my officemate wedding. Kene pegi. demi mengeratkan silaturrahim yg selama ini biasa2 je pown. elokla. org dah invite. kene pegi. lepak lagi.

x sabar nak balik raya. sebab? nnt drive memalam kat LPT leh test radio baru. dah siap letak lagu2 aku dlm thumbdrive. nak letak lagi bebanyak. pastuh, wlupun balik umah MIL, tetap leh rehat. and x sabar tgk anak niras aku. Akim. Kimi. mana2 la.

sapa2 raya tganu jemputla dtg umah. call dulu. manatau balik Dungun. or takde makanan. mminum air jek la ko.

P/S Letih mendelete 1000++ yahoomail aku. danggg...

meraban x tentu arah

Ada yg bertanya, "ko kenapa?". Ada gak yg straight-forward " ko ada problem ke?". Appreciated tapi xyah tanya la. Kalau aku nk citer, aku dah citer dah. aku ni kan mulot leh tahan gak. Lagipun, sapa yg x pernah ada problem dalam hidup. Sebahagia mana p0wn nampak, everybody has their own lifestory and set of problems. I only hope that each of us will manage it ...carefully and tactfully.

Mungkin sapa yg kenal rapat tuh dah tau kot problem masalah aku. yg x rapat p0wn ada yg tau. mungkin dari mul0t aku. mungkin dari mul0t 0rang laen. Tapi aku malas tul nk layan klu org gunakan pihak ke-3 aka kawan2 aku tuk usha2 citer aku. "what you see is what you get" is not always right tau. Sometimes, things simply don't seem the way they are. Kalau aku buat "nakal" pown, mana org lain tau isi hati aku? baik jahat aku? BerPHD < Perasaan hasad dengki> kah aku? Tanya la kengkawan aku. Mereka lebey tau.

memang mul0t aku keadang mcm si@l. Betul gak kata omputih "don't judge a book by its' cover". Aku dah tak pelik klu masih ada 0rang yg nampak aku lain macam skalik terus judge, jatuh hukum, mcm2 la. Mcm laki aku cakap, pemikiran aku nih lain sikit. Non-traditional and so open. salah ke? mungkin pada pandangan perempuan2 melayu terakhir salah la kot. tapi in the end, aku pedulik apa.

Mana orang tau kalau aku bina 1 rumah anak yatim dan bela anak2 yatim? orang x percaya punya sebab aku nih ala2 gedik lah sikit. tp again, aku x pedulik. Takkan benda baik nak tunjuk2 lebey2 kan. Walau apapun tanggapan orang, aku layan semua orang sama. x kurang x lebey. apa dorang rasa dalam hati, tuh dorang punya pasa. yg penting, aku buat salah, roger2 lah.

aku tulis benda2 nih semua bukan nk menagih simpatike apa. cuma mlm nih aku bengong sikit. gatal jek tgn nak meraban. dahla pagi tadik playlist aku dari zaman happening dolu sampai ke YM sampai ke pagi sampai ke awal tawon ini. Hilang. terdelete kot. tapi...biarla.

keje plak, mungkin aku lembap sikit buat masa ini. budak2 TW tau la kot. sapa je yg x busy p0wn. semua orang busy jek. Tpi aku sedapkan hati memikirkan cuti raya yg lama lagi tuh. leh relek2. tawon nih balik tganu lagik memandangkan hari tuh dah balik sabah. Persiapan raya? ikut hati nak beli baju 1 dozen. ikut hati la.tapi biasala. kalau dah mak-mak neh, anak2 pegi dulu. aku nak temakan kaler merah la ini tawon. ok tak? merah menyala mcm gincu dolu2.

Okla. aku nk jahit baju maxi dress bg pendek sikit. bukan pendek sgt pown. tahap buku lali jek. Baju neh panjang sgt..kalah cinderella kalau pakai nye.